This entire post is based on my understanding and experience. No offense meant to anyone. These are some qualities that according to ‘common sense’, men hate in their wives. So, what do men hate in their wives?
A man wants his wife to be pure, lovable, and innocent not evil and cunning. Nobody likes evil and cunning. So, please don’t show or even harbor negative emotions, like jealousy or hate. Be a lover, a caregiver, a nurturer, a provider. Impart positive energy.
Unattractive and repulsive appearance
A lot of women don’t give a shit about how they look at home, but as soon as they have to go out, they dress up, they apply makeup and perfume themselves. He is your partner, he is the love of your life. Dress up for him. Be feminine and alluring to him.
Throw away the rags you wear at home and dress pleasantly. Stop smelling like whatever you’ve been cooking, smell amazing. Look like a princess and he will treat you like one, believe me. Make him feel he married a beautiful woman. You have to maintain yourself!! No excuses, no reasons are acceptable.
I know that sometimes in a bad mood, we tend to complain. But, making this a habit and being ungrateful about every single thing is not good. Men want to feel appreciated. If he tries to do things for you, thank him instead of pointing out what he’s doing wrong. If you don’t like something, or you want something, convey it in a sweet manner. Believe me, he will WANT to do it for you. Be grateful for whatever it is you have instead of whining about things you don’t.
Despise/hatred towards his family
Understand that long before you, he had his family. His parents and siblings mean a lot to him. They are a big part of his life and so are you. Do not try to compare yourself with his mother, ever. Understand that a mother and a wife hold very different positions in a man’s life.
The tension between a man’s wife and his family really disturbs and stresses him out. There is a delicate balance, so try to maintain a good relationship with his family from the beginning. Have a clean heart, and if there is something you don’t like to communicate directly with the family member, instead of going and telling your husband.
If you need something done. Grab his attention, and say it ONCE. Say it clearly, say it needs to be done now. You will just be losing your value if you say the same thing a 100 times, nobody likes to be nagged. You are his wife not his mother. So, don’t start nagging. Tell him you are not going to say it again. Depending on the urgency he will do whatever you’ve asked him to do.
Please, don’t do this. Be like a tree that gives cool shade to a traveler on a hot day. If you constantly bicker with him, he will WANT to avoid you. He will NOT want to come home. Be the cool shade for your husband when he comes to you after a long day. Make him smile, make him laugh. He should love your company. Don’t bicker him with problems and complaints. Relieve him of his stress. If he is worried help him however you can to relieve his worry. Comfort him and restore his hope and faith. Be his best friend, be his playmate, be his everything.
Disrespect, disobedience and disloyalty
All of these are a big no-no. Have genuine respect for your husband. Having mutual respect in a relationship is very very important. Don’t do something you know he wouldn’t like. Respect his wishes. Treat him like he is your king, and he will treat you the same. Be obedient to him. Do as he says, as long as it is not something haram.
Hmm, disloyalty…many married women rather openly flirt with men, which is beyond disgusting. I mean, dogs are more loyal, I’ve nothing to say on that.
Unhappy and moody
We are humans, we tend to get sad and mad and moody. It’s part of life. But, being unhappy and moody all-the-time is a major major turn-off for everyone around you. If you feeling down, and unhappy over something legitimate, convey your problem and he will understand. But, if you are ‘always’ moody, and unhappy there is a problem.
Be happy! Smile. Laugh. Be fun to be around. The joke, make him laugh, be spontaneous, be surprising, and adventurous. Life is too short to be whining and sulking over things. He will run away from you if you are very moody and hard to be with. Be easy-going. Let go of things. A genuine smile is the most beautiful thing.
So, that is all I can think of right now. Leave me a comment if you think I missed out something. 😉 I hope this post is helpful.
Thank you for reading!!